Lords of the Realm 2 how do you use hot seat
 

can't seem to figure it out, and there is no option in multiplay...but I've read around the internet that it is supposed to support it

You should post in a LotR2 fan forum, as is:
http://www.squirtthecat.com/forum/

I'm pretty sure I've done it, but I think it was with the lords of the realm 2 siege pack expansion...do you want to try and play online against each other? I don't know the details on how it's possible, but I'm sure it would be fun.