How do you know when you in love?

You can't describe it. But you can tell when you feel it.
It's a weird feeling, falling in love with somebody. You would do anything to be with that special someone all the time, just the presence of her/him makes you tremble with excitement...or something like that, I can't really describe it.
Why do you ask, and who is the lucky one?

I don't know yet...

Read my thread... I'm in love, I know :D

How do you know? :crazy:

when you call her "prrrresciousssssss". :D

:crazy: :crazy:

Don't worry gufu, you'l certainly know when you are in love trust me :ok: When you see that special someone you begin to shake, you can't speak a whole sentence in front of her without having to correct yourself and your stomach will shrick to the size of a tangerine... or something like that... and you will want to be around her always and when you get separated from her for even a short time it will feel like tormenting...

but don't believe me, feel it yourself.. its beautiful :D

Yeah, when you'll feel it you'll know it ;)

Mmm.... tangerines....

Even though you are right, people are allowed to have fun.

I'd say the exact opposite, actually.
When you're around that person, everything seems so right, and you feel right at home. If you're in love with a person, it must be someone you feel comfortable around, and can be yourself without being worried about saying the wrong things or pretending to be someone you're not.

And Niles, maybe it's because of those negative things that are going on in the world that we need a topic like this.

I am with Niles, lets sale weapons to both paties

I wonder how many special people can there be?

They punched me back.

The only thing that is going to stop things like world wars is love. They are actually quite related.
As for the personal love you inquired about, you have to realize that love is actually a blanket statement, and that there are a lot of different kinds of love. I like to think of love as total respect and trust; admiration and the feeling in your deepest core that whomever your love deserves the best this life has to offer. When you are with them you feel alive, no dull aches or false hopes, just contentment and pure happiness, mutual of course. The mutual thing is a biggie, cause if you "love" someone who doesn't give a rat's behind about you, it's not love; it's insecurity.

cor a couple of years ago and i would have said you guys were a bunch of pansies. LOL but now im just not so sure... :unsure:

If you still like him/her a lot when you know all his/hers good and bad characteristic, you may be in love... But it still needs that special feeling.

All you need is love :music:
Its look loke the world peace will be made when the last human is dead.

Gufu, u seems to be the only one in love here or in romance for Sebatianos



First Stage: she spit u or the following sequence take place: phisical attraction --> phisical contact --> phisical relation --> Romance? No phisical end of relationship.
If by a demon´s will u made to the second stage (romance), u become a complet dumbass. Think only in one person its also no think in many other things.
If beign a jerk u get in convivence, it can happens two thing u settle down to see your childs (Dark side of the force). Or u should contact your lawyer.

rlbell...i'm not a massmurderer, but an atheist...believe me...
it's stupid saying "atheists killed hundreds of trillions of..."
you could say they were nutty...many of them had a religion...that didn't stop them from killing


read this carefully

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I mean, come on... the guy wants to know what love is... not the motives for killing millions of people. Do that elsewhere.

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Thank you. Now the huge OFF TOPIC can be removed.

Hold on, I'll spilt this thread. Separate the love and religion.

So you're telling me strait out I should lie? Amazing! [/b][/quote]
There are lies, and there are lies. The most common lie is "I'm fine", usually told when someone asks how you are feeling.

The evengelical coming to your door is looking for a convert by offering his brand of salvation. If you belong to another faith, or posess no faith, at all, you are not lying when you say that you do not need his salvation. Just because the Jehovah's witnesses or mormons may not believe me when I say that I am saved does not make them right, nor does it make my statement a lie.

Still I'm confused! :cry:

when you get a boner while you are looking at her.... :ok:

Veeeery subtle, Gregor <_<

Imho the experience really is somewhat different for everyone, every occasion, every situation :)

It's a personal thing mainly. Everyone says you'll know, but it can be quite confusing (and not just at first).
I guess that might just be the best indicator. :P

Funny, but not true...
(Boys in puberty must be in love all the time then)

Funny, but not true...
(Boys in puberty must be in love all the time then) [/b][/quote]
Disturbing fact!

So I'm in love with your mother?
Thanks for the inappropriate comment, bud. :ok:

well nobody can explain it...go buy some hormonal pie and invite a girl to a cup of vodka...or ..beer

Religious intolerance is to hit the door at 10AM a Sunday!

So I'm in love with your mother?
Thanks for the inappropriate comment, bud. :ok: [/b][/quote]
My mother was cremated 10 years ago.

I don't know about you guys, but it happens to me when she kisses me in a very hot way...

And look at it from this point of view, you can't really have sex with someone you dont' like (unless you are being raped). So some basic likings and possibly even love might be in betweeen. maybe not long lasting, but a short one at least. a spark.

would you people be in love i mean really in love with some girl and would not want to have sex with her???

um... this is bad... :tai:

um... this is bad... :tai: [/b][/quote]
what is bad? you don't get it when you are frenchkissing your girlfriend?

no dude, I meant the context... misquoted sorry...

about kissing my..um... loved one... it's unbelieavable yes... But it makes me sad that she spends her nights with somebody else... and can't decide what to do...

i had very similar situation. only we never got to kissing only strong liking. in the end she had to choose. she couldn't and was mumbling, making excuses how good her bf is even if they constantly argued and spent times appart... i got pissed off told her "if he is so great then stay with him!" and i used all my efforts into a girl i thought was my friend. it turns out she liked me too. and was ready to become more than just friends. which is awesome only problem i have now is that she is a bit "expencive" :D yah, because it costs me a lot of money to just visit her.

And looking back i think i might have problems with the previous girl. I prefer a girl that is still innocent. cause somehow that grouse image of another guy kissing her, even doing her would be constantly in my mind.

Never mind me. i am weird...

I hate that!

And whaddya think how I feel? She still has her bf and she sleeps there almost every night, even the thought of them doing anything than talking makes my heart hurt.... :(

Gregor, why do you say people can't have sex with people they don't like?

And are you saying that having sex with someone is love? So you can't have sex with a person without loving him/her? :blink:
And... like=love? I'm confused..

Been there, done that, but they do not hand out T-shirts. But you have to strictly define "want". There is a difference between finding someone sexually attractive and wanting to have sex with them. Angelina Jolie is a very attractive woman, but I do not want to have sex with her.

It is really easy to not have sex with someone that you are deeply in love with, if they do not have the same feelings about you. It is also not that difficult to not have sex with someone you love (not easy, just not impossible) who loves you back, if the two of you choose to bridle your passions, until it is appropriate to release them.

It can be difficult, but not having sex when it is improper is the moral thing to do. I had the misfortune to meet someone who would have made a great lifemate if I was not already taken. It is stressful to listen to an attractive (physically and intellectually) woman complain that she is still a virgin, when you cannot morally nominate yourself as a savior from her condition.

I have found it possible to have a platonic relationship with a woman that I felt a visceral need to have sex with. As I am a human being, and not a beast, I can choose not to have sex. She jokingly referred to me as her significant non-other, and she discovered that I was a catalyst for everything that makes her happy (she would never have met her husband, if not for our friendship).

Maybe I'm too young...

Now this is a point where I fully agree with you.

It's not wrong feeling the urge to have sex with somebody, but if you know that it would be wrong, you should hold yourself back. As you said, we're humans not beasts, so we can do this, but it can get hard at times (yes, pun intended).

Uh... I almost failed at that yesterday... so to say I *failed*. :tomato: Somehow I lost control of my emotions and pushed on her more that I felt proper later, I'm ashamed really :tomato: But the thing is she doesn't protested *that* much, I mean she only objected that her rommate could get back any minute... Omg this is embarassing... :tai: I had gathered what little self-control I had left and fled to my room... :tai:

Don't worry, just wait.

This is the basis for my common complaint when I see attractive young women in tight and/or revealing clothing. The complaint is simply that I am married, not dead.

Uh... I almost failed at that yesterday... so to say I *failed*. :tomato: Somehow I lost control of my emotions and pushed on her more that I felt proper later, I'm ashamed really :tomato: But the thing is she doesn't protested *that* much, I mean she only objected that her rommate could get back any minute... Omg this is embarassing... :tai: I had gathered what little self-control I had left and fled to my room... :tai: [/b][/quote]
Been there, done that, felt terribly ashamed. Stopped before any harm was done. I will divulge no details, because (even though she has long since forgiven me) there is a non-zero chance of her reading over my shoulder as I type this.

you will fall in love several times in your life. when you are still young you feel something like "pre-love" for almost every girl you really really like. I think that's a adolescence thing - I went through it and know all of it. :max:

when you grow older you might fall in love with several wrong persons. it feels like love and it tastes like love but then suddenly you realise that you are not 100% happy. - maybe coz you don't like how she smells or you don't like how she acts in some situations.

And sometimes people even have to learn that they never have been so lonely as in their current relationship.

when you are very very very lucky you will meet someone with whom you are so definitely sure to want to be with her for the entire rest of your life. everything that person does to you feels great and even being together without doing anything (no talking, no actions, nothing) makes you feel good inside.

you will know when it's the right person. but you will be just really sure when you also experienced wrong persons...

@swiss

Dude, you just summarised my life until this point :D and summarised my thread too. Well... no comment :ok:

if so - we have something in common .....

I'm doomed :cry:
...or not :D
Let's wait and see...
what if you wake up with strange felling?(No not to throw up :D

what do you mean exactly?

Love is whenever you holler and cuss at your spouse and no matter how extreme it is, They will tolerate it and not leave you :)

No, love is when you will do anything that the other person will ask, while trusting that other person to never demand what you cannot give. Love is when the two of you feel like one person in two bodies. Each is incomplete without the other

Okay, my problem is that loving my wife is as natural as breathing and is as obvious to me as water is to fish. That being said, I can offer some useful advice; although, it is mostly applicable to men:

For long term success, you have to share your partner's values. This means that you should date people who are nearly as neat (or messy) as you are, or housekeeping will be a major source of tension. Food likes and dislikes are less important. A friend of mine suffers from the fact that her husband's eyes water in the presence of food as spicy as she prefers, but they are still happy. Athiests should stay away of truly religious people. Religious differences are less important than the level of religious conviction. There is no compelling reason for two people of different religions marrying if the religious practices are not mutually exclusive. However, the outlook of deeply religious people and athiests are mutually exclusive.

Women do not date their friends. If the woman is available, all of her previous relationships broke up and she is likely not on speaking terms with any of her previous boyfriends, so dating you means losing you as a friend forever, at some future time (told to me by a woman that I deeply loved, as a reason for her not dating me, but it may still be true in the general case). So you should ask the woman out, and then get to know her. If you are lucky, if things turn out badly, things have not progressed to the point where you cannot remain friends; otherwise, you have not lost an old friend.

Personally, I would never have sex with someone that I would not marry. I still think that it is useful advice, as no form of birth control is perfect. Also on a personal note, the point of dating is to find that special someone to raise children with. If you do not intend to raise children, you should stay away from people who do.

Women don't date their friends?
But do men date their friends?

You really can't assume that this goes over everybody. I'm a woman, and I've dated friends, and it didnt' change anything afterwards.

And religions and level of conviction don't really have to be a problem, if both of them are open minded :) I'm an atheist, but have never dated one. I've even dated a fairly religious guy. As long as people respect each other's believes and thoughts, it shouldn't be a problem.

Yeah, that's my point of view too.

I think that you know when you're in love with someone when it feels like they're part of your everyday life, rather than something seperate.

Man we're going off-topic!
:ot: :ot: :ot: :ot: :ot:

what's the topic then dude? :huh:

About a kid asking when you know when you in love!!!

Oh really? :omg: Jeez, don't say! :huh:

No seriously, we are trying to do just that, don't worry dude :ok: Love is different for everybody there are similar things in each so try to gather what knowledge we flowed in here for ya :ok: Have questions? Ask away! :D

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OMG!

Like i said. Love is a blanket statement. A question like that is a can of worms. Maybe ask yourself what Love is to you, and then see if this person fits into the equation.

I couldn't agree more :ok:

As I find this thread interesting enough to talk about with people not on this forum, I got the following answer from my wife's parents:

If the object of your intentions was somehow rendered incapable of taking care of himself/herself, would you gladly take care of him/her?

I suppose some of gufu1992's problem is that many of the suggestions (mine no less than others) take the question far too seriously for someone who just wants to know if he should ask some girl out. If that is the case, ask her out and see if the relationship evolves into one where the more serious responses are applicable.

Communication is the key. Use your time together to find out what you share. Common interests are less important than common values. Do not be afraid to talk about how the two of you perceive the relationship, so that neither of you has unrealizable goals. Hopefully, you will recognize irreconcilable differences while it is still possible to part amicably.

You see Piaty online, and your heart skips a beat and your tummy turns to jelly and you follow him around with big shiny puppy eyes until he dies of embarrassment, then you kiss him on his adowable widdle nose and he screams and runs to hide in the broom closet.

Then you sigh happily and wink at the kiddies, and they go Oooooh! :sneakrete: :max: XD :smile2:

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